Question: Am I in the wrong for unmatching someone on Hinge when they give me their Instagram and they are actually not cute?

Answer: If you do not find them attractive then you do not have to continue interactions with them. It will definitely hurt the person on the receiving end as you both matched with each other. However, it is better than having fake conversations with each other and pretending that you are interested in them when you are not. Or to have conversations with long response times because you do not want to actually speak with them. I do think that attraction is an important component when it comes to dating, but it should not be the main issue you base your interest on. You may be missing out on a great person because you were too focused on their physical appearance.

Question: My roommate has been making some cold and lowkey mean comments about how my life revolves around chemistry, which it does. But I have to or I am going to fail. Should I spend less time on chemistry and goofing off with her?

Answer: You come to college to get your degree so that you can prepare for your future. You should not sacrifice your education to be “goofing off” with your roommate. If what you are studying is negatively impacting your emotional and/or mental well-being, then you should reevaluate how you approach your major and speak to your professors and advisors to help you. Different majors require more time than others. For a STEM course it is an additional one or two more hours of studying compared to non-STEM courses, so it is a bit more work. Process how you are feeling, think about what you would like to do and make a plan for yourself. Tell her your feelings about her comments being cold and mean because you may not realize it yet, but it creates some resentment towards her and it can negatively impact the way you see yourself and what you do. 

Question: My girlfriend of three and a half years still has only posted one untagged picture of my back after me begging the entire time. I do not know what to do anymore. Would I be a jerk if I broke up with her for this?

Answer: No, because you should not have to beg your girlfriend of almost four years to post a picture of you. I would suggest that you speak to her about what the problem is with posting you and explaining that it is important to you. This way she knows why it matters to you and maybe it would convince her to post you as a way of reassuring you about her commitment to you. Or maybe you will learn why she has not and you can find a middle ground so that you are reassured and have nothing to worry about. Talk to them and decide for yourself what you want to do and what will make you happy.

Disclaimer: The advice given in this column does not reflect the opinions of the entire Oswegonian staff.