Question: Do you believe in second chances?

Answer: Depending on what the person did, second chances are possible. Sometimes issues happen because of miscommunication and distance from the situation can be good for you to speak about later when the situation does not feel as close as when you are in the moment. However, there are times when a person has done something that has changed the way you view them which can be hard to reconcile, no matter how much time has passed by. 

Question: My roommate keeps watching movies at midnight past quiet hours and playing them super loudly. I have asked multiple times for them to turn it down and they do not. I own the tv and I am taking it out of the living room and not letting anyone use it. Was this the right move?

Answer: Yes. If it is your TV then you have the right to do whatever you want with it. It was disrespectful for them to disregard what you were asking them, especially when it was something as simple as “can you please turn down the tv.” It is not like you told them to shut it completely off. Also, not only is it midnight, but it is quiet hours so there is no need to have the tv turned on so loud. It should have been relatively quiet in the dorm so the volume definitely could have been lowered. Some people make situations harder for themselves, but it is what it is. You can possibly have a conversation with them about it in the future and decide if you want to put the tv back and have a rule or something about using the tv at a certain time because your sleep is more important than someone having to watch tv.

Question: Is it wrong that I always want to leave the drunk friend in one way or another because nobody else ever helps me with them and I am usually forced to do it? It also messes with my ability to have a good time.

Answer: It is not wrong to feel that way, but it is wrong to leave them while they are drunk. Yes, it is upsetting to always be the designated person to handle the drunk person, but to leave them in a vulnerable state is not okay. At the very least make sure that someone else can be there for them or call university police or someone to make sure that they get back to their dorm safely. However, I would suggest talking to them when they are sober and letting them know how you feel and that you will no longer be the person that will be spending the entire night taking care of them because they can not hold their alcohol. Also, let the other people who normally come out with you know as well. That way you are letting your feelings be known and letting them know that you all have to look out for each other. 

Disclaimer: The advice given in this column does not reflect the opinions of the entire Oswegonian staff.