Question: My girlfriend told me it has been four days since I last showered, I do not believe that, but it has been at the very least two days. I do not smell bad. I wear deodorant and cologne, why is she counting?

Answer: She is most likely looking out for you. Deodorant and cologne is not enough to get rid of body odor, especially days after not showering. You may not realize your own body odor as you may have gotten used to how you smell without realizing it and your girlfriend most likely can smell the difference. She may have been politely trying to tell you that you need to shower either that day or more often. You should be showering at least once a day as it is important as it removes dirt, sweat and bacteria that accumulates on your skin, which prevents the build up of odors. A little attention to hygiene goes a long way in avoiding an offensive scent to those nearby. It is better for your girlfriend to say something than a rude stranger.

Question: Was I wrong for telling someone that I am mad they cancelled on me last minute? They canceled on me 15 minutes after they were supposed to be at my place. I spent 8 hours cooking dinner.

Answer: No, let them know how you feel and why because that was very rude of them to do. You spent a lot of time cooking the meal and they could have cancelled much earlier or provided an explanation for why they could not attend. The explanation would have to be an emergency situation for it to be valid because they knew about your plans all day yet waited to say something after the designated time. Emergencies are easier to excuse as you can not control those. However, if it is a nonemergency situation then they need to know that kind of behavior is unacceptable and it should not happen again. 

Question: Am I wrong for cutting off a friend for wanting to get back with her toxic ex? She has said I do not have consideration for the time they spent together, but to me that means nothing because the relationship is horrible.

Answer: No, because not only is she not taking your advice into consideration, she is turning the situation back on you and making it seem like you are a bad friend. It should not matter how long they have been together, if the relationship is horrible then that is what it is. It does not matter if they have been together for five days or five years, bad is bad. Sometimes people are (unfortunately) blinded by love and can not see how bad a situation can be, so I would suggest saying your peace and letting her make her own decisions and you make your own. If she ever realizes how bad the relationship is and wants to apologize and reconnect, you should re-evaluate your friendship and see if you want it back.

Disclaimer: The advice given in this column does not reflect the opinions of the entire Oswegonian staff.