Shelly Sloan is the health promotion coordinator and Ted Winkworth is the alcohol and other drug program coordinator. You can find them at The Lifestyles Center in Walker Health Center. Shelly received her master’s degree in community health education and is certified in health education. Ted received his master’s degree in counseling and is also a credentialed alcoholism and substance abuse counselor.

Dear Shelly and Ted,

Is it uncommon for a woman to not have an orgasm during sex even if she enjoys it?

Signed,

Pleasure Palace

Dear Pleasure Palace,

No, it is not uncommon for women not to have an orgasm during sex. Sex can be incredibly pleasurable whether or not a woman has an orgasm, but self-exploration and communication are two big things that can help with this. Self-exploration is important so you know what feels good so you can convey that to your partner.

Communication is important because it lets your partner know what feels good, what doesn’t and how to make it so that you can achieve orgasm. Don’t ever fake an orgasm; your partner will think they are doing all of the “right” things and you may never, ever have one! You are in charge of your own orgasm!

-Shelly

Dear Shelly and Ted,

Is it possible to overdose on shrooms?

Signed,

Dazed and Confused

Dear Dazed and Confused,

Mushrooms are a yucky drug because, well, they smell like poop. The reason is that they grow exclusively in cow or horse poop. Something about mushrooms containing psilocybin (the active ingredient in magic mushrooms) makes them thrive in that stuff. Anyway, chemically you can’t overdose if you take them. However, since Psilocybin creates hallucinations and altered states of reality, users can experience a “bad trip,” which is essentially like a really bad dream that they can’t wake up from.

Once, in high school I ate too many mushrooms and began to believe there was a village of evil gnomes who meant to do me harm living underneath my bed sheets. Needless to say, I didn’t sleep much that night. When I woke up I felt fine and vowed not to eat those things anymore, but I’ve had friends who have had flashbacks or continued anxiety stemming from a hallucinatory event. I’ve also heard of mushroom hangovers that involve nausea and vomiting. It’s always best to err on the side of caution and take too little (or none at all) rather than too many.

-Ted

 Dear Shelly and Ted,

What is the difference between DWAI, DUI and DWI?

Signed,

Ridin Dirty

Dear Ridin Dirty,

In New York State DWI is the most common. That is driving with a blood alcohol concentration over .08 (usually about 3 beers). What most people don’t know is that if you are pulled over and blow between a .05 and .08, you can still be charged with DWAI (driving while ability impaired). That blood alcohol content can be reached at two drinks or less. Finally, for people who want to try to avoid a DWI and think it’s safer to smoke weed and drive, there is Driving While Ability Impaired or DWAI. It is definitely illegal to drive under the influence of any drug, and if the arresting officer suspects impairment by a drug other than alcohol, a driver can be arrested for this offense. Know the laws and drive sober.

-Ted

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